First thing is that I have decided to go back to school to be a yoga instructor. This takes up quite a bit of my time. I'm going to 4-5 classes per week on top of reading and assignments. This unfortunately has taken up a great part of the "extra" time that I previously used to blog. I am learning a lot and am excited to start sharing some things that I've found to be helpful. Once school is out for my little ones, I'm will have more time to dedicate to the blog.
Secondly, I have loved the "My Journey" series and I will continue to write them but sometimes recounting my past is hard. I have always written to sort out my emotions and going back and remembering what was going on with me at the time, forces me to think and process even further. Which is a good thing because I learn, and grow from each new realization. But a lot of the time I feel like I can't write a new installment until I've finished processing the old one. So if it takes a while in between posts, that is what is going on.
Lastly, I watched this video the other day and it resonated with me so greatly that I needed to share it with all of you. You might have already seen it. Watch it and then I want to share some thoughts.
Here are just a few statistics for you:
*Only 4% of women consider themselves beautiful
*60-70% of our internal dialogue is negative
*In a study by Brown University, 70% of women feel worse about themselves after visiting social media sites or looking at women's magazines.
Think for a second about all of the negative things that you say to yourself during a day. Things like, "I can't do that", "I look terrible", or "I'm fat". I want you to now think about one thing that you like about yourself. What I want you to try next is every time that you say something bad to yourself, I want you to stop and replace it with the thing that you like about yourself. So when you walk by a mirror and think, "Oh I need to start working out. I'm so fat" stop yourself and say out loud, "I am beautiful and I have a fantastic smile" You choose what you like about yourself but replace the bad thought with a good one. After a week or so assess how you feel about yourself. Do you feel better about yourself? Chances are that you will. Then when you feel that confidence, you can start taking out each bad thing you say about yourself, one by one, and replace it with something good. Before you know it all of the negative things you once thought about yourself will be replace with all of the really great things that are true and beautiful about yourself.
We choose to focus on only the bad because we know ourselves in our darkest hours and we judge ourselves based on that. It is also then affirmed when we turn on the t.v., log on to Facebook, or peruse through a magazine at the grocery checkout. Realize that in these instances you are seeing the best version of those people. Which is not necessarily their "real" selves. It is what they have consciously chosen to be seen by others. Nobody wants to put up a Facebook picture of themselves first thing in the morning with their hair all crazy, glasses on, no makeup, in their holey pajamas that they've had since 1999. It's the same reason that you clean your house like a crazy person before you have company. You want to take out that trash that is overflowing so that your guests don't think you're a slob. But the truth of it all is that we ALL have these moments. We all have better and worse versions of ourselves. In our society, unfortunately, we only choose to let people see us at the best versions of ourselves; which a lot of times is not who we truly are.
My wish for women on this planet is hat we get back to our authentic selves. That we sit with the "bad" version of ourselves and be okay with it, that we not buy into societies idea of beauty, and that we remember that social media is a consciously chosen image that people portray. We all have good days and bad days but what really matters is that we love ourselves and surround ourselves with women who empower us. That we stop the madness of self hatred and replace it with kindness and compassion. And that we teach our daughters and sons that all women are beautiful, especially the one who is raising them, teach them to love themselves through loving yourself. Break the cycle of "traditional beauty" and take your place in this World as the most beautiful women your eyes have ever seen.
Something that my yoga instructor read in class and something to seriously consider.
If you wipe away the perception of yourself and look at what is, you will realize that your
beauty and talent is infinite. And that it was only stifled by your own mislead idea of what you "should be". Let go of what you think should be and embrace your own truths and your own infinite beauty.